Insightful & Inspiring Counselling, Workshops & Training
Counselling Psychologist (HCPC Registered)
Voice Dialogue Facilitator
The place where you lose the trail is not necessarily the place where it ends.
Counselling can help you with:
What Can Counselling Help You With?
(Tom Brown. Jr)
The world just seems to get faster and faster, and there seems to be more and more to do. However, our minds and bodies and emotions can't always keep up with the pace. Using the Voice Dialogue approach I can help you to understand how the inner perfectionist, critic and pusher contribute to your stress and I can assist you in managing the stress in your life and moving towards a healthy work- life balance.
These are some of the life challenges that counselling can help you with. If something is troubling you, but it is not on this list, then please still reach out. Humans beings are infinitely complex and that is partly what makes us so amazing!
Life transition issues / Grief and loss
Sometimes we just seem to be cruising along, and then we find we need to accommodate a big change in our lives. Leaving school or University, getting a new job, getting married, having children are all important transitions. Other events that can impact upon us hugely are getting divorced, ageing, moving to a different country or the loss of someone close to us. When you are facing a major change in your life it can be a good time to get some assistance. A counsellor can help you to get some perspective and clarity about your direction, to cope with grief and loss, to re- appreciate yourself and to draw on your strengths.
Depression & Anxiety
Depression and anxiety are common nowadays and can be very debilitating.
If you suffer from these conditions and are reading this, then I acknowledge the part of you that is seeking a solution. Both depression and anxiety can also be very isolating. It can be very hard to reach out, but there is help available. A Counsellor can help you to deal with these challenges. Some therapies may focus more on the impact of the past, others focus more in the here and now.
I can help you to find a therapeutic approach that feels appropriate for you.
It is normal at times to have concerns about our health, or feel disturbed by our bodies in some way. First place of call would be your GP. However, counselling can help you to create better coping strategies, and to deal with any mental health issues which may arise. Having a place to talk about feelings free of judgement can also be very useful.
With terminal cases, counselling can be an invaluable tool for everyone close to the individual, and the individual themselves. A counsellor can help with coming to terms with the diagnosis, dealing with practicalities, and helping all concerned deal with grief. You may find body dialogue, a type of voice dialogue (link) to be illuminating and helpful.
Sometimes the mind or the body is overwhelmed by certain events that occur in our lives and we are traumatised as a result. Psychological trauma can cause us to question our beliefs and to find it very hard to trust. Sometimes the trauma happened when we were children and impacts deeply upon who we are now. I am experienced in working with traumatised individuals and adult survivors of child sexual assault, both male and female.
Relationship & Family Difficulties
Relationship counselling can help us to break free of old habits and ways of relating to people. Our sense of identity and self-worth is deeply tied up with the strength of our relationships. Often we despair when relationships fail.
Our ways of relating are often learned at a young age within our family. Self-respect and liking oneself are important ingredients for a good relationship.
If these feelings are in short supply you may consider counselling to address them. Any relationship that diminishes a person's self-esteem should be examined closely.
Spiritual wellbeing is about our inner life and our relationship with our environment, with others and with ourselves. It is an integral part of mental, emotional and physical health. Spiritual well-being can be associated with a specific religion, but it does not have to be. It can be practiced in numerous ways, with its main function being to find purpose and meaning in life. Spirituality and faith provide an opportunity to detach from circumstances and observe life with clarity and integrity. I am of no fixed denomination, but I consistently find that nature brings me closer to my sense of spiritual wellbeing. Because spiritual wellbeing is personal, different people will find certain approaches more helpful than others. As a counsellor I can support you in your search for spiritual wellbeing.
Self–esteem is how you think and feel about yourself. The more positive feelings you have about yourself, the higher your self-esteem is; the more negative feelings you have about yourself the lower your self-esteem is. Our materialistic world, where people continually compare themselves with those around them, highlights our insecurities.
This often leads us to feel negative about ourselves, and the way we live. We can lose sight of our value and then feel inadequate and unsatisfied. A counsellor can support your journey beyond self-criticism towards appreciation of your strengths and individuality.
Addictions can allow people a temporary escape from their problems, and can develop from many activities such as; alcohol, drugs, eating, gambling, shopping, sex and use of the internet. Stigma surrounds the word 'addiction'. Addiction is an inability to stop repetitive behaviour in spite of the harmful consequences. For many their craving or impulse offers a short-term escape from the realities of their life and is often used to deal with depression or anxiety.
Addictions are often associated with activities that initially bring pleasure and release from everyday life and pressures. When life is empty and when we are low or depressed, the tendency to addiction can increase. Stimulation and reward are often ingredients of addiction: drugs, eating, gambling, shopping and sex all produce highs, which need to be repeated. The following lows increase the feelings of hopelessness. A skilled counsellor can help an addict to start to understand their emotional needs and face the realities of life with more hope of addressing the underlying problems attached to their addiction.